The changes taking place in Polish families, both urban and rural, have become an undeniable fact. They are connected with civilization changes, technical progress and European integration. It results in a transformation of the system of values and norms of social coexistence expressed in a change of a model of upbringing in an urban and rural family. On the one hand, the educational effects depend on using certain educational methods and techniques and, on the other hand, on the type of relationship between parents and children. Therefore, the opinions of secondary school pupils and their parents were taken into account while analysing educational means and methods which describe a certain style of upbringing in a family. The earliest contact of a child with values comes within the family. The values become determinants of people’s life choices and aspirations. Moreover, they let an adolescent individual specify valid norms which regulate a realization of needs and a character and forms of their co-relations on a level of I – Others (including parents) and I – the World. In other words, they influence a preferred model of upbringing in a mature life. From a research point of view, a system of values preferred by parents is very important because it makes an axiological warp where a new generation grows up and shapes its ideals. It is both parents’ task to transfer and make their children aware of the values which are, in a context of environmental and cultural conditions, treated differ ently by mothers and fathers. It needs to be emphasized that parents’ definite preferences to the values are crucial not only from a point of view of their children’s future, but also in a context of the established ‘here and now’ direction and a character of educational influences – a style of upbringing.